Tall women dating shorter men? Tall men dating childsized women? - The Tall Street Journal

I am 6'2 and am currently dat…

2013-09-11T00:56:08.177Z

I am 6'2 and am currently dating a girl who is 5'2. Yea the height difference is pretty big ha. I don't have a problem with tall women, but never seemed to find any that were interested in me. My girlfriend has a great personality that matches well with mine and that was the main thing that I liked about her. She is also Chinese, and I have always had a preference for asian women (I'm Caucasian), which helped too heh. I will admit that sometimes the height difference is annoying. Hugging her or trying to kiss her while we are both standing is difficult and awkward. Although in other ways I like feeling taller than her. I find it cute when she has to look up at me to talk with me. When we are laying down the height difference matters less, but still is somewhat of an issue. Took us a long time to find comfortable positions to hold each other and do other things while laying down.

Some other people on here were claiming that tall guys prefer short women. I didn't ever think about not going out with tall women, but I do find short women attractive sometimes. I guess that it makes me feel more masculine when my girlfriend is shorter than me and has to look up at me all the time ha. I'm 6'2 but only 140 pounds so I am tall and lanky. Maybe that's why I like short girls too because I don't always feel masculine because of my body type.

I'm 7'. ALL women are shorter…

2012-02-05T10:00:13.342Z

I'm 7'. ALL women are shorter than me. I used to Tango, Foxtrot, Argentine Tango, etc... when I was in Miami many years ago. I found a 6'4" saucy Cuban woman who took a guy who only knew how to 2 step and square dance, and taught him a thing or two about being light on your feet. I don't dance any more because I don't like women staring into my belly or crotch. I can imagine dancing with a short guy staring eye level into your head lights, and knowing some of the guys I work with, I'm sure they would try to tune the radio. My grandfather was 6' 10" and married a 5' 4" woman. They had 10 children. I think he found what short women are good for.

I really don't know much abou…

2011-12-17T14:00:27.495Z

I really don't know much about cats..but I can still imagine that some pets could seem to be more fun to be around than some people.

In a purrfect world..

but I ain't about to trade people for pets..not just yet, anyways..:)

If I ever split up with my cu…

2011-12-15T08:44:31.288Z

If I ever split up with my current guy, I'm just gonna became a Cat Lady (have 2 cats now). Much less hassle, the cats are grateful to be taken care of, and they're plenty loyal. Just sayin'.

hmmm..nodding head..a tall…

2011-12-15T07:53:37.139Z

hmmm..*nodding head*..a tall order indeed, Pamela.

..(and then as if to make things worse, it's easier to look eye to eye than to see eye to eye..;)

I just have to say that PLENT…

2011-12-14T06:28:15.330Z

I just have to say that PLENTY of tall women have been rejected "just because of" their height. In my mother's generation, women my size or taller often ended up single for life. All because guys wouldn't consider us.

Some of us are with shorter m…

2011-12-14T06:26:57.321Z

Some of us are with shorter men because it's harder for a tall woman to get together with a tall man. Seems the tall men are out chasing the runty women! And lots of the runty women won't look at a man under 6 feet tall!

Yeah, I started out wanting a guy who was at least eye-to-eye with me, but I have to say I've gotten a better response from shorter men. The guy I've been with for about 10 years is maybe 5'6" if you put him on the rack.

I did belong to a tall club for a while, and while it was nice to be in a social club especially for tall people, there wasn't as much pairing off as one might hope for.

I haven't seen many tall wome…

2011-12-14T02:44:36.079Z

I haven't seen many tall women, to be honest..but I enjoy it when I do get to see one..it's just too bad that they usually seem to be with shorter men...(although I know of ONE couple who are both tall..and they look beautiful together, really)..I just think that some tall women have a less confidant opinion of themselves, which would lead them to go for someone with a more dominant personality..which some shorter men seem to have about themselves, although I don't know Why.

I would say that there is som…

2011-03-20T04:23:52.606Z

I would say that there is something biological about a woman's desire for a taller man, just like there is probably something biological about what seems to be most men's desire for a smaller woman.

I'm a 6'1" woman, and was not bad looking at all as a young woman (I'm 57 now). But no..... I was chased by men half my size. I don't really like feeling twice a man's size. My current partner is a lot shorter, and he's handsome and well built, and he's very good company--but if I had my heart's desire, I would have wanted a man closer to my own size.

I've dated several men shorter than me. I don't *have* to have a man taller than me. But for pure physical attraction, I prefer them at least up around eye level.

There's also the issue of what you're used to. We really big Amazons are not used to being around that many men who make us look small. I did go out with two men in the range of 6'8" and 6'9". Neither relationship went anywhere. The taller guy actually told me stories which made him sound like something of a control freak, so I didn't go out with him again. The other guy picked me up as if I were a feather (I was only 22 years old at the time). I am not used to that, nor am I used to being with men where I only come up to their shoulder. I was a bit intimidated by that guy because of it.

I've taken an informal poll of other tall women I have met over the years. Just about every last one of them told me that they had also grown up watching the tiny women and the big men get together, and they couldn't figure out why big men preferred tiny women, and why tiny women weren't happy with guys who were in the range of 5'7" to 5'10"--a lot of these pipsqueak women insisted on dating only men in the 6'6" range... they claimed that they couldn't get turned on otherwise.

After all, if a woman is only 5'1", a guy who is only 5'7" is still 6 inches taller than her. I have spoken to several much shorter men and they all seem annoyed (to say the least) about this. They were, like you, good-looking, accomplished, etc.--but the tiny women wanted men who were well over 6 feet.

I will say that I am not comfortable with a guy who is so much smaller than me that he looks like a kid next to me instead of a lover. Sorry, but that's the way it seems to me.

I will say that I have personally gotten better responses from men who are under 6 feet tall themselves.

I was reading your blog, and…

2011-03-19T22:27:08.414Z

I was reading your blog, and I had to write about my experiences in trying to meet and date tall girls, so as to offer a shorter male’s point of view.

When I was 24, I met a divorced woman, 32 who was 5’11”. I was 5’8”. It was a brief affair, but I just could not get over her long legs and curvy broad hips. She possessed a tapered waist which only accented her curvy hips ever further. Because of her, I developed an appreciation for long legs and the natural curvy hips of a tall woman.

I moved into a singles apartment complex in Houston. In this apartment complex, there was a loose knit group of single men and women. In this singles group was Heidi, 5’11”, early 20’s, blonde hair and blue eyes. I remember one time she was standing before me at the complex pool, while I was sitting in a chair. She was wearing a white 2 piece bikini. I looked up through her long tanned legs to those broad hips, and my memories came back. Anyways, in the few times we talked, she never expressed any interest in me, so that was that.

One Saturday, during the summer while at another pool in the same complex, I was chill’en with 2 or 3 other guys, when another man I knew walked up to us and mentioned that he had proposed to Heidi. She had turned him down, and he wanted anyone in the group who knew here, to put a good word in with her, for him. To say the least, we were all stunned that a guy would say this to a group of acquaintances. A few months later, while at my pool, I overheard two girls talking about Heidi turning down two other men. I do not know if these girls were talking out of envy or were mocking the two men, but this showed that Heidi was getting the attention of men. (Fast forward 12 years, one child and one divorce later.) A friend of mine wanted me to join a singles dating organization. I said before I join, I want to see what some of the girls in the organization looked like. He obtained about 20 biographies with photos of the women. It must have been photo 8 or 9, but there was Heidi. Her name appeared on the top of the page, with her photo below and two paragraphs about her life. I remember this one phrase, 34 years old, never married, no children.

I thought, how could this be? If she were not the most desirable girl in a social gathering, she certainly was one of the more desirable girls. Three men offered to marry her, and there must have been more. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women. As I went back in time, I remember two girls telling me they wanted a taller man. One girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked more uninterested if she had wanted to, another girl I approached looked at me as if I had insulted her for even talking to her. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.

This blog made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, for this letter, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was ugly or had a rotten personality or other bad traits. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height, as if you can measure a man’s character or worth by using a yardstick. Not one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.

I am now married, with sons 11, 7 and 3 along with a son 22 from my first marriage. I am a good father and husband. I give my boys attention and time. They have electric motorcycles, pedal carts, bikes and all sorts of video games. I have traveled to 22 counties and 20-30 states across the US. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored a US patent. I have made over 6 figures for 10 plus years. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently without a second thought.

So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself, just as Heidi discovered. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate. There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.