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Tall women dating shorter men? Tall men dating childsized women?

What are thoughts on either of these situations? I'm a tall woman and have dated men taller and men shorter than. I loved being able to wear high heels and have my man be taller still. I haven't come across a lot of available taller men recently and a girl wants to get out soooo... Yes, I know ultimately it is the kindness and respect from your lover that matters.

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I'm a 6'8 man of thirty and also have Marfans which makes it difficult to date alot which is what I want to do. I have had three serious relationships each lasting two years and I have always wondered if it was the fact I have Marfans that caused them to eventually fail. The stares suck but I have become pretty tough and can look bitter enough that people don't stare if they glimpse my face. It can be a very sad reality at times. If I could just be myself and feel comfortable in my own skin. They long arms are what are killing me right now because it's summer and I have to wear short sleeves in Florida. I'm bone thin so it is embarrassing. I just joined this site after I read your comments. All I can tell you is I have never dated a tall woman and all my girlfriends have been under 5'5. Life is brutal sometimes.
Wow you are really tall! Anyway people are making fun of him because they are stereotypic people and jealous. I mean really those people are bullies and the only way to have bullies leave you alone is to ignore them. Besides why should they be laughing? Your man is walking with a very beautiful tall woman that others would love to have. I'm tall too but you tower over me by 6 inches and I don't judge short people either. It is dumb too. Just because someone is short doesn't mean they are weak. Short guy can be pretty strong too. If you ever watched UFC before that short guys look like they can rip people heads off.
Hello Everyone,
When I was 16-17 years old, I somehow attracted taller ladies. I am 5'8", the first one was 6' with beautiful long red hair. The second one was 5'10" and very curvy. The third one was 6'2" and she was thin thin thin.
Since that time, nothing at all. I have tried to meet taller ladies on a certain personals website, but most of the accounts there are not current.
Like other people here, height is not a deal breaker in any sense of the word. Currently I am dating a woman that is 4'11". I met her after I joined this website.
But most off all, I wish everyone success in their search for happiness (whatever it means to you).
Well, I'm 6'1" and now queen-size, and historically it has been mostly shorter men who have hit on me. I grew up preferring taller men, but none of them stuck around.

It does bug me to see a huge guy and a shrimpy woman. I've taken an unscientific poll on this topic over the years, and nearly all the other tall women I've asked about their dating experiences have commented that it at least bugged them growing up.

The man I've been with for a long time is maybe 5'6" if you put him on the rack. He's handsome; although the size difference isn't as important lying down, it does still feel weird after all these years.

I will say that the shorter guys seem less intimidated by us Amazons... I guess they're already used to not being the biggest one around, so a few more inches doesn't seem to faze them.

OTOH, a lot of taller men don't seem to want a woman up at eye level. I don't know why they prefer women so much smaller than themselves... you know, 7-foot guy with a 5-foot woman.. Now, that looks really weird to me.

Just my 2 cents.
Oh, yeah, and I've had several teeny tiny women tell me they just can't get turned on unless a man is REALLY tall...
in the 6-1/2 foot range or taller.

In the past, it was nice to have a guy at least a little bit bigger than me. I don't really like feeling twice a man's size. However, I briefly went out with a guy who was 6'8", and I wasn't used to only coming up to his shoulder. He picked me up as if I was a featherweight (was about 150 pounds then). That actually freaked me out.

Have also had several smaller women tell me that they were glad they weren't "too tall" or that their daughters weren't "too tall." What beeyotches.
"I've looked at life from both sides now" - Joni Mitchell (1969)

Actually for me it can read or be sung as "lived" rather than looked.

Ahem. Well what can a once boy now girl standing at 73 inches contribute to the long and short of this height discussion?

I love'm all....I've loved them all......I hope to have the opportunity of loving even more of them? I could easily get into how shallow someone might make of me avoiding those who are centimeter-challenged but then some schmuck will make a rude comment of a sexual nature. Ha Ha

Or how can we seriously make light of height when there are far more bittersweet or simply bitter tales to share in our current world. I shant do that for now.

Having dated all genders and having experienced love in all its glory, I can say my tastes have changed as my gender was reclassified.

As a boy raised to be a gentleman [well that kinda sorta failed in the end] I sprang up quickly to attain a height of 72 inches by age 17. and from that point typically dated women who would be labeled as petite rather than short. Or as the Subject eludes towards, a homunculus. Let me try to dispel such thoughts.

We all have requisite needs and desires as human beings. Those attributes, whether physical or mental (intellectual, psychological, moral) that we find ourselves seeking out in those we date or romance. As people we all tend to enjoy "pretty things" or "lovely creatures". Society oft defines such parameters which history shows us have changed over time.

As such, once matured into young adults we typically have cemented many of the desires and we carry these throughout our lives. Although, with education, some of us allow other factors to enter the equation when determining our romantic attractions. Others bring material attributes into the equation.

So where did that leave me as a young man aside from noticing what girls were wearing and if their shoes matched before letting the testosterone "kick in"?

At 6' 0' [I grew an inch in college at age 21] my requisite attraction was towards petite women upwards to 5'4" or maybe 5'6". It wasn't some macho determining factor to enable me to "throw about" or dominant by size. It was that I enjoyed the dichotomous nature of things.
["Hey honey can you reach down under the sink to get the brass polish for me?" After all she had less distance to travel going downward]

In truth there were far many more characteristics. whether physical or mental. that I would observe before height. Examples being 'the windows to the soul" (eyes), lovely legs (I had a thing for gymnasts, dancers and ice skaters), and most of all compassion. If she had compassion then whether 4'11" or 6"4" I would be in my state of romancing. I seriously dated women that were 5'2", 5'6" and 5"10'.

Now for the more tricky part of my personal equation. Once diagnosed with G.I.D. and sufficiently forward in my transition I fell in love with shoes. Especially "strappy" sandals with high heels. So from a once higher societal comfort level [attired] as a 6'1:" nice romantic fella, I found myself often standing at 6'4" to 6'6" looking about the pub, club or cafe wondering if some "nice romantic fella" would approach this six and a half foot girl [or gurl, i don't particularly care]. And yes, when your altitude heightens the "clean air" [nice romantic fellas} of taller stature can get much thinner. And some men who may stand at much less than 6 feet can seem intimidated. Even by a slender, very slim gal.

So where did this ultimately leave this now "tall gurl" unwilling to give up my high heel shopping expeditions and be relegated to wearing flats when both men and women seemingly love what a taller heel does for a lady's legs?

No. I didn't go back to dating women although many transwomen do travel the transbien or GG woman on TG women route. I did two things. Joined online sites where I could, after filtering out the trolls, cheating married males and "tranny-chasers", look more upon my more highly rated requisites and then decide if height was an "issue".

Subsequently I have seriously dated men from 5;9" to 6'7". and yes a few ladies from 5'5" to 6"1".

Let's be "real" to ourselves. All kidding aside. Who really cares? A good man is a good man whether 5'2 or 7'2". Same for women.

I may tend towards shying away from men of lesser stature but at sunset of each day, sitting on my three season deck sipping a chilled adult beverage it's the size of his or her heart that truly matters. And there's always another shorter or taller guy or gal around the next corner or next URL.


Miss Kyleigh at 6'1" and never wishing it to be otherwise.

p.s. Quite frankly in 5 inch stilettos, red velvet "wear anywhere" corset, a billowing satin skirt, hipster panties and silky garter-ed stockings I seem to have many a shorter or taller man/women to fend off. Teehee
I don't discriminate when it comes to a woman's height. I'd love to date a woman taller than me but that hasn't happened yet (hey, Maria Stepanova, I'm single!). On the other hand, a few women have said that they wouldn't date me because "dating tall men hasn't worked out for them in the past", which is sort of sucky. But I don't let that stop me from trying.

As for tall men dating much shorter women, or tall women dating much shorter men, as long as each person in the relationship is happy, then more power to them.
I like both tall and shorter men
I'm 6'7" and have yet to date a girl taller then 5'11". My shortest girlfriend was 5'2" but that didn't last long. When we cuddled, I felt like I was cuddling with a child and it just felt weird. My current girlfriend is 5'7". I think its a pretty good height. She can wear 4 inch heals and still feel small next to me. I do admit though, I am attracted to taller girls (girls over 6'). Just haven't met one that I would date yet.

I was reading your blog, and I had to write about my experiences in trying to meet and date tall girls, so as to offer a shorter male’s point of view. 

When I was 24, I met a divorced woman, 32 who was 5’11”.  I was 5’8”.  It was a brief affair, but I just could not get over her long legs and curvy broad hips.  She possessed a tapered waist which only accented her curvy hips ever further.  Because of her, I developed an appreciation for long legs and the natural curvy hips of a tall woman.

I moved into a singles apartment complex in Houston.  In this apartment complex, there was a loose knit group of single men and women.   In this singles group was Heidi, 5’11”, early 20’s, blonde hair and blue eyes.  I remember one time she was standing before me at the complex pool, while I was sitting in a chair.  She was wearing a white 2 piece bikini.  I looked up through her long tanned legs to those broad hips, and my memories came back.  Anyways, in the few times we talked, she never expressed any interest in me, so that was that.

One Saturday, during the summer while at another pool in the same complex, I was chill’en with 2 or 3 other guys, when another man I knew walked up to us and mentioned that he had proposed to Heidi.  She had turned him down, and he wanted anyone in the group who knew here, to put a good word in with her, for him.  To say the least, we were all stunned that a guy would say this to a group of acquaintances.  A few months later, while at my pool, I overheard two girls talking about Heidi turning down two other men.  I do not know if these girls were talking out of envy or were mocking the two men, but this showed that Heidi was getting the attention of men.  (Fast forward 12 years, one child and one divorce later.)  A friend of mine wanted me to join a singles dating organization.  I said before I join, I want to see what some of the girls in the organization looked like.  He obtained about 20 biographies with photos of the women.  It must have been photo 8 or 9, but there was Heidi.  Her name appeared on the top of the page, with her photo below and two paragraphs about her life.  I remember this one phrase, 34 years old, never married, no children.

I thought, how could this be?  If she were not the most desirable girl in a social gathering, she certainly was one of the more desirable girls.  Three men offered to marry her, and there must have been more.  And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women.  As I went back in time, I remember two girls telling me they wanted a taller man.  One girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked more uninterested if she had wanted to, another girl I approached looked at me as if I had insulted her for even talking to her.  On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too.  Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.

This blog made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection.  Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, for this letter, did I get angry.  I was rejected not because I was ugly or had a rotten personality or other bad traits.  No.  The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height, as if you can measure a man’s character or worth by using a yardstick.  Not one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.

I am now married, with sons 11, 7 and 3 along with a son 22 from my first marriage.  I am a good father and husband.  I give my boys attention and time.  They have electric motorcycles, pedal carts, bikes and all sorts of video games.  I have traveled to 22 counties and 20-30 states across the US.  I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored a US patent.  I have made over 6 figures for 10 plus years.  I could have provided a good life to any girl.  I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (20’s) gave me a chance.  I was turned down consistently without a second thought. 


So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself, just as Heidi discovered.  There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity.  And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late.  You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate.  There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones.  So my advice would be to accept the advances of men and get to know them.  I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship.  Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.

I would say that there is something biological about a woman's desire for a taller man, just like there is probably something biological about what seems to be most men's desire for a smaller woman.


I'm a 6'1" woman, and was not bad looking at all as a young woman (I'm 57 now).  But no..... I was chased by men half my size.  I don't really like feeling twice a man's size.  My current partner is a lot shorter, and he's handsome and well built, and he's very good company--but if I had my heart's desire, I would have wanted a man closer to my own size.


I've dated several men shorter than me.  I don't *have* to have a man taller than me.  But for pure physical attraction, I prefer them at least up around eye level. 


There's also the issue of what you're used to.  We really big Amazons are not used to being around that many men who make us look small.  I did go out with two men in the range of 6'8" and 6'9".  Neither relationship went anywhere.  The taller guy actually told me stories which made him sound like something of a control freak, so I didn't go out with him again.  The other guy picked me up as if I were a feather (I was only 22 years old at the time).  I am not used to that, nor am I used to being with men where I only come up to their shoulder.  I was a bit intimidated by that guy because of it. 


I've taken an informal poll of other tall women I have met over the years.  Just about every last one of them told me that they had also grown up watching the tiny women and the big men get together, and they couldn't figure out why big men preferred tiny women, and why tiny women weren't happy with guys who were in the range of 5'7" to 5'10"--a lot of these pipsqueak women insisted on dating only men in the 6'6" range... they claimed that they couldn't get turned on otherwise. 


After all, if a woman is only 5'1", a guy who is only 5'7" is still 6 inches taller than her.  I have spoken to several much shorter men and they all seem annoyed (to say the least) about this.  They were, like you, good-looking, accomplished, etc.--but the tiny women wanted men who were well over 6 feet.


I will say that I am not comfortable with a guy who is so much smaller than me that he looks like a kid next to me instead of a lover.  Sorry, but that's the way it seems to me.


I will say that I have personally gotten better responses from men who are under 6 feet tall themselves. 


I just have to say that PLENTY of tall women have been rejected "just because of" their height.  In my mother's generation, women my size or taller often ended up single for life.  All because guys wouldn't consider us.


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